Learning Frame

"-Focus on building your skillset...results will come as a byproduct of this mindset
-Focus on getting outside of your comfort zone and learning NEW skills. What have you never tried to do? Go do it.
-Have a willingness to experiment with things that sound a bit off. Realize that with each new skill, there will be a period of adjustment in which the results you get will be all over the map. Your game has to be sloppy before it can be tight.
-Allows you to not attach much importance to any one outcome. A byproduct of this is that the process becomes REALLY fun. Its hard to get frustrated when you don't really care what happens, as long as you are trying.
-This mindset completely eliminates the existence of failure. If your goal is to range one specific routine (for example), then as long as you have deployed the routine, you have succeeded, regardless of the response. You should still be paying attention to the response though. With the learning frame, every "rejection" is automatically reframed as a rejection of your use of your skillset in this particular instance, NOT a rejection of you as a person. The only way to fail is to not try.
-One caveat. If you are correctly using the learning frame, you should be trying your level best with every single set. If you are giving less than 100% effort in a set, the feedback you get is going to be inaccurate. You will be unable to judge whether the poor response was due to an integral flaw in the techniques you were using, or due to the way you used them. If you are going to use the learning frame, you have to commit to putting forth your best possible effort every time." Mojo

"There is ZERO cost to an approach. A no-go or a crash and burn only has a cost associated with it, if you choose to give it a cost. Rude words from an HB or some laughing AFCs or anyone only matter if you let them. Approaching is free in terms of both monetary and emotional cost; so why not do it? Since there are hundreds of millions of eligible attractive women, you can keep on trying and practicing." Devilhimself

"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances" Viktor Frankl

"Most women dream every day of having a cool, confident guy approach them and make them smile in their day-to-day lives. They don't want to have to wait until 1:15 at the bar on a Friday for some drunken fool to make his move before the lights come on.

They want you to come talk to them at the gym, the coffee shop, and the supermarket. They want you to approach at happy hour and when they are at dinner.



Breathe deep through your mouth and nose.
Fill your lungs and empty them. Always remember to breathe!
Nod your head slowly, and repeat under your breath, "yeah, yeah, yeah..."

Get some music playing in your mind. Something that makes you happy and feeling good.
Now, keep your head moving, and keep the music playing, and repeat these three simple mantras to yourself.

"I look like a goofball."
"Sean has no fucking idea what he's talking about."
"She's gonna think I'm fucking retarded."

Yeah! Yeah! Yeah!

Now the coup de grace. Give yourself a smack in the ass.

Don't think, meat. Just do it.

Now at this point, you will have absolutely cracked a smile. Your head is still nodding, so you cannot think negative thoughts. Your face is relaxed from smiling, so you can't store too much tension.

And your mind is focused on feeling goofy and having fun, so you can't get nervous about looking cool." Sean

"You'll discover that girls really want to be approached by guys, and you learn that even if they reject you, you are still making their day!

You are giving this woman a GIFT by approaching her, no matter what happens, so what you waiting for?"